THE FIRST DATE!

     Most people believe that the first date speaks for everything. That everything about a person can be understood within the time your there.This is the  “first date syndrome” ! It doesn't matter if your girl or guy, all this ''firts date syndrome'' can cause a lot of pressure to make us feel like we have to do everything perfect, but the chances are it will only go about 65% right.

         Most people don’t judge you right off, you need to understand that you don’t need to sit there and Impress each other anymore than you already did when she or he agreed to go out with you in the first place. Your date is there for you, dressed up, having dinner, and that should add a little comfort.

        Don’t try to invite her or him over the first night, it may come across as you just wanted a one night stand. Which gets to thinking that after one night, its over.

          In some cases that’s the fact that all you want is the quick one nighter. And if it is, you should be straight forward with your date. You don’t know your date's situation,  may be she or he trying to get back out there for the first time after a horrible break up and you wont help her or him one bit. This comes with actually getting to know your date, rather than tossing drinks.

          Open the car door for her, offer her your jacket, ask him about himself and listen to him. Doing small things really helps you and your date out. Most people don’t take the time to simply ask what they like. And don’t sit there talking about yourself like some god, its not attractive and you’ll come off as full of yourself. So be yourself, and enjoy the time you have with your date. Have fun! When you have fun on a date and you both can be yourselves, not only will you both be comfortable, but its points on your end.

          One thing I would like to touch, don’t question her or him  past until much later. A rule to look into is that it is none of your business what that person has done in their past or who they have been with in the past, you have to live in the present, the moment your concern began is when they said yes to the date. In other words, the past is the past. It shouldn’t matter if you two find mutual love.

                   A Small List;

-So be sure to dress to the occasion, look sharp, carry a smile.

-Always show up on time, never late.

-Be Confident. A lot of girls  are impressed by confidence they see in a guy,and so the guys. Show that you have self-esteem.

-Listen. Some people just talk and talk and talk. A lot of people might be impressed by the simple act of listening. Show you care about what the other has to say.

-Lastly, never sit there on your phone or take business calls. This time for you and your date, business is during the day. Never mix business and a relationship, its not a turn on.

          Be yourself, have fun, and enjoy it. Don’t stress it. Everyone has good dates, everyone has bad dates. Go into it with a positive mind and you’ll be okay. If it doesn’t work out, there is always going to be another girl or a guy out there who it will work with!